As a psychotherapist, I often work with individuals navigating the pain of heartbreak—a deeply human experience that most of us will encounter at some point in our lives. The loss of a relationship can feel overwhelming, and the path to healing is rarely linear. While there is no one-size-fits-all solution, there are some gentle and effective strategies I often share with clients to help them move through this difficult time.
Don’t rush to label it as permanent
In the early stages of loss, the idea of living without the person can feel unbearable. Rather than framing the separation as final, it can be helpful to view it as a temporary transition. Trying to accept “forever” too quickly can intensify resistance and make it harder to let go. Giving yourself time and space to adjust allows for a more compassionate and gradual shift.
Set aside time to feel
Emotions need to be felt to be processed. I often suggest creating a daily window—perhaps 20 minutes—to sit with your sadness, anger, or grief. During this time, allow yourself to fully experience your feelings without judgment. Afterward, gently guide yourself back to your routine or engage in a healthy distraction. This practice helps prevent emotional overwhelm while honoring your need to grieve.
Take a break from social media
For at least the first 21 days, consider stepping away from social media. The digital world can offer constant reminders, comparisons, and triggers that complicate the healing process. Disconnecting—even temporarily—can help your mind recalibrate and create a more supportive internal environment.
Speak your pain
Whether it’s with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist, talking about your experience can provide relief and clarity. Being heard and understood is a powerful part of the healing journey.
Above all, remember: heartbreak is not a reflection of your worth, and there is nothing “wrong” with you if it’s taking time to heal. In fact, it often means you loved deeply and authentically. With time, support, and self-compassion, the intensity of the pain will soften. Like all things, this too shall pass.
