The Counseling Center is a group of pristinely trained psychotherapists in Westchester, New York. We specialize in marriage couples therapy, divorce recovery, and marriage counseling Yonkers and Westchester services. If you get the feeling that your marriage may be in trouble, we can help you rescue and rekindle it. With our years of expertise, we can help bring you and your spouse back together again. Here’s where to start.
Step 1. Make A List And Keep Your Eye On The Root Of The Problem
All too often when living with someone, people tend to lose focus on the bigger picture. Arguments ensue over petty incidents, when in reality, they are the result of larger more profound issues that the couples are failing to address. By making the effort to be more conscious of the root of the problem, couples can avoid these proxy arguments and more effectively resolve the bigger picture issues one by one. The first step is to simply identify from where this tension is coming.
Step 2: Focus Less On The Problems And More On The Solutions
The more effort each of you make to tackle your differences constructively rather than destructively, the better off you’ll each be in the long term. Keep in mind that there is a reason the two of you married one another. If this marriage is going to work, the two of you must focus your efforts far more on building instead of breaking down. Albeit, when you feel the other may have wronged you, it is only natural to feel vengeful and resentful. But when it comes to a life partner, this mentality rarely leads to anything constructive. Instead, your best course of action is to find a way to make this problem go away. Getting back at your spouse is usually not the way to make that happen.
Step 3: Make A Habit Of Working Together
Cooperation is one of the many crucial keys to a strong and healthy marriage. That applies not only to enjoying outings together, but also to tackling problems together. If you notice that something isn’t working between the two of you, instead of trying to fix it on your own, try to include your second half. With the two of you in agreement, you’ll each be much more likely to uphold whatever plans you make moving forward.
Step 4: Be More Supportive, Even When It Doesn’t Feel Right
This person agreed to spend the rest of his or her life with you because he or she sees you as a source of strength. If your spouse felt that he or she would be better off without you, this marriage never would’ve happened in the first place. That’s why you should take up the responsibility of meeting those expectations. What will result will be your spouse reciprocating the favor. Even if at times you may feel you’re forcing it, the effort of being more positive in general towards your other will result in a stronger relationship.
If you’d like to learn more about the Counseling Center’s relationship and marriage counseling Yonkers and Westchester NY services, give us a call today at 914-793-3388.
