The divorce rate in the United States remains high, which means you’re in the same boat as many other people in this country. That doesn’t make it hurt any less, unfortunately. Getting through a divorce is no easy task. That’s because you know that when you set out to marry this person, you had the best possible intentions. It’s easy to dwell on the past and ponder how you got here. But sooner or later, you are going to have to come to terms with the fact that it’s time to move on. That being said, there’s plenty of ways to make moving on a spectacular and liberating experience. We offer quality separation, divorce and couples counseling Westchester NY services. Here are just a few ways that you can grow from your separation or divorce.
The trickiest thing with relationships is learning how to be independent again. For so long, you’ve devoted all of your actions to the happiness and wellbeing of your partner. When was the last time you did something for you? Believe it or not, that’s not a crime. In fact, it actually feels pretty good. Time to hit the gym, go on a diet, and start taking care of yourself, for yourself. This doesn’t have to be a punishment. Instead, you can look at your divorce as an opportunity to rediscover yourself and what you’re capable of accomplishing. Embrace it!
For the first time in a long time, you’ll be able to explore different ways of thinking. You’ll be able to interact with people outside of your household with different viewpoints. And you may just find yourself exploring different spiritualties and religions. When you’re in a committed relationship, especially with marriage, many people don’t have the time or energy to explore any ways of thinking beyond those of the people in your immediate life. But that’s all going to change now, and as a result, you will become a healthier and freer person than ever before. You can feel more connected to the world around you, because you’ll finally have some space to really study it.
When you have a teammate who you have to consult with for every single little tiny decision, life moves slower. It gets tedious after a while, but eventually you grow accustomed to it. Well, at long last, that tediousness is over. No more having to ask what the other person wants to do with his or her day. Now, you can buy whatever food you want at the grocery store, and no one is going to hold it against you.
You fell for someone. And for a time, it was wonderful. But that person likely also ended up hurting you in a very profound way. Well, you can either let that wound take over, to the point where you never again experience joy, or you can learn from it and become a better and stronger person for it. You’re not the first person to experience heartbreak and you surely won’t be the last. So take this experience in stride and don’t make the same mistake again.
From the Counseling Center, we’d like to wish all of our readers a happy holiday. For more information on our separation, divorce and couples counseling Westchester NY services, give our office a call today at (914) 793-3388.